May 31, 2022
The Narcissist/Jezebel Spirit
“But I have a few things against you: You permit that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, to teach and seduce My servants to commit sexual immorality and eat food sacrificed to idols” (Revelations 2:20).
Beloved, I believe with everything in me, this message is for someone to open their eyes before they are entangled with this spirit. This was the hardest devotion I have ever written but essential for someone to be educated on this spirit. The Lord desires to spare you from the pain of a relationship with someone with this spirit. Do you know a narcissist/Jezebel? Are you in a relationship with a narcissist/Jezebel? How do you handle your relationship? First, you must understand you are not dealing with a person; you are dealing with a spirit! The world calls the Jezebel spirit a narcissist, but God calls it what it is, a Jezebel spirit, and this spirit has no gender. A Jezebel spirit moves fast in relationships, and they want to marry the person they have set their eyes on quickly. They look for someone they believe they can control and manipulate. They play the game well in courtship; they are Casanova. They will wine and dine you, dance and treat you like the princess you know you are, and tell you what they believe you desire to hear – it’s hard to believe it’s real. It’s Not Real! However, they want to win you and when they get you; then they will not want you.
Their target is a people pleaser, and those with a huge heart of compassion. Why? A people-pleaser wants to help everyone. You can’t change or fix anyone; only God can and they must want to help themself. If you are a people pleaser, I want you to know you are enough without being an overachiever! You don’t have to be extra! You are enough! You do not have to do anything to be loved and accepted. A healthy relationship or marriage DOES require both of you to work together with God at the center. However, you can be real, and you can be you! You don’t have to fix or help anyone! Just be who you are. You are loveable! You are enough!
People from good families fall for a narcissist/Jezebel spirit because they believe everyone is like them – honest and trustworthy. That is a lie! Everyone is not honest and trustworthy. I used to believe the lie, so I am qualified to speak about this. I just wanted to help others. God gave me a huge heart of compassion and He anointed me and called me to Heal the brokenhearted and set the captives free so that He can restore them. It’s a gift! However, a gift can destroy you or make you. In my younger years, the gift brought me pain. In my older years, I have great discernment and wisdom and know the difference. I thank God for those who deceived me when I was younger because now that I am older and wiser, I have a keen spirit of discernment and I pick up in the spirit when someone walks in my presence who is deceptive. It’s amazing when you are in an intimate relationship with someone, you cannot clearly see the truth. I call it denial! Holy Spirit take the scales off our eyes to see the truth because it is the truth that sets us free! (John 8:31-32) People must want to help themselves! You can’t fix or help them, so stop trying! ‘Love people but trust God!’
The goodness of God draws people to repentance. (Romans 2:4)
God gives you a spirit of discernment for a purpose. If you have a red flag or a check in your spirit about a person or what they are telling you, STOP and LISTEN! The Holy Spirit is trying to tell you something! LISTEN! Don’t choose to walk in denial! A narcissist/Jezebel spirit packages themself as someone who wants to take care of you, and they will say, ‘you don’t have to work. No one is ever going to love you the way I love you!’ These are classic lies! Some people believe that it is romantic! That is a lie! The theme song of a Narcissist is: every move you make, every breath you take, I will be watching you! They are watching you and recording in their mind what they believe you like or want. They get in your head. They are constantly speaking into your ear. Remember this: what you consistently hear, you eventually believe even if it is a lie.’ They will try to confuse their partner, twisting things that are said to make their partner believe they are the problem. They will say, ‘that never happened, or I didn’t say that! You’re crazy! Until you believe you are! That’s a lie! You are not the problem! God is not the author of confusion but of peace. (1 Corinthians 14:33)
Pay attention to these traits, do you recognize them in anyone:
1. They seek out others they believe are weaker to control, influence, and dominate
2. They have problems with submitting to authority
3. When in a group they pull away, then at just the right moment seize the limelight (Luke 4:35)
4. Requires excessive admiration and attention, critical when they are disappointed.
5. A know it all, haughty not humble, and arrogant
6. Lacks self-control, and emotional outbursts if they’re around people too long but work at covering it up, not concerned about how it impacts others because it’s all about them.
7. They have an entitlement, (attitude the government owes me, others owe me attitude), demand automatic compliance with his/her expectations, have unreasonable expectations of others, explosive, exploitative, they are controlling, manipulators, and deceptive.
8. Totally void of empathy, will falsely mimic empathy to seduce their victims and control them.
9. Jealous and envious of others and what they have, they are also delusional believing others are jealous and envious of them.
I0. Isolate their victims, especially their victim’s families.
11. Defensive when confronted about anything and even combative.
12. They fantasize about themselves having unlimited admiration for their beauty (handsome/good-looking), power, success, brilliance, or perfected worship in love.
13. They believe that he/she is superior and unique and can only be understood by others who are superior.
14. It’s all about them!
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist/Jezebel, you will end up becoming an Ahab in the relationship and do everything you can to keep peace! Ahab believes he/she is submissive, but they’re not – they become subservient, bending over backward, serving the person who thinks they are entitled. I know firsthand, from many years ago, I was married to a Jezebel and became Ahab, and both spirits must be broken. Usually, a Jezebel spirit is verbally and can be physically, spiritually, and sexually abusive! The 90/10 rule – we tend to put 90% of our energy into the most toxic relationships because they demand our time and attention – leaving 10% of our time for the healthy, good, loving relationships in our life – when it should be reversed. Narcissists/Jezebel’s are a full-time job. The world says they are great, but the Word reveals the truth. How much better would your life be if you put 90% of your effort into the healthy, good relationships in your life and 10% into the unhealthy relationships? You would be healthier for sure. Your relationships should be respectful, kind, loving, compassionate, moral, and on time.
Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast; it is not proud. It does not dishonor others; it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, and always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4)
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